Guys > Mars , Girls < Venus (pt II)

Okay so now for u guys out there, today's lesson is going to be on approaching girls/women.

But before I say anything, let me just disprove of what the average joe will be thinking when the word "approaching" comes to mind.
Many people think that they need to be good looking to be able to approach a girl without getting shot down. But I've said it time and time again, the ugliest fat man can get a girlfriend pretty enough to grace the covers of any fashion or men's magazine as long as he has the confidence (and the right words to say)
Also many people (especially the conservative, religious and the scared people) think that approaching total strangers doesn't work for everyone. So if I were to give an example where you and your friends are sitting at Laundry Bar, and on the table not too far from you there are a couple of absolutely hot women. Are you going to just sit there and admire the view? What if I said that it was possible to end up dating one of them?

The thing guys have to realize is that women have the same wants and urges as men (ask any female friends and they'd say the same thing). It's just that women aren't fully attracted to physical appearances the way men are attracted to women, so you won't catch many women staring at guys (except for the occasional pretty boy). Also women know that guys want them so they know they are in total control when talking to a guy, and having said that play hard to get to see how that guy would compare to the other hundreds of guys that have hit on them.

Okay so now that's out of the way, one does not simply walk in to a shopping mall and ask a pretty girl for her number. Nobody does that. Even if someone like Brad Pitt did that, the girl will change her perception on him forever. But i digress. =p

There are certain guidelines a guy has to abide to in order to get a girl's number. And not only that, have her looking forward to his call.
And this applies to ALL guys- however ugly, fat or short you may be.

The first step in approaching is to have an opening line that will not put her on the defensive. And yes, this means never to use a pickup line on a girl. There are a few types of opening lines to be used- the situational opener, the sincere opener and the opinionated opener (there are a few more but I can't quite remember them right now).

Anyway the situational opener uses the situation as a way to open conversation.
e.g. 1 If there was a fight that just broke out and she saw it, "Hey but did you catch what happened? I love these kinda dramas. I've no time for TV so Starbucks is the next best thing for me."
e.g. 2 If some guy tried hitting on her but failed, "Can you believe the cheesiest lines guys come up with nowadays? Even if a girl used that on me, I'd say no too"
e.g. 3 If shes wearing a pretty dress, "Sorry I can't help but notice you're wearing a really nice dress. May i ask where you got it? My best friend's birthday is coming up and I've absolutely no clue what to get her."

This is my personal favorite because if at any time you get shot down, you can just call her unfriendly and walk off. Because let's face it, at no point did you come off as a creep who was trying to hit on her.

Really confident people use the sincere opener, which can be the most nerve wrecking, but is also the easiest ones to use. They can be as simple as a, "Hi, I'm Johnson and I'm going to be really honest, but I think you're pretty cute. Would it be alright if you bought me a drink?"

It can be as easy as that. And yes, she will talk to you if you pull it off with perfect confidence.

One rule though is never use the words hot, sexy, fappable or anything that would imply that you want to sleep with her.
Also, never offer to buy a girl a drink because this will automatically trigger her defensive system.

Once again, if she says no, she'll forgive you for being sincere and confident at the same time. But ONLY if you've pulled this off with perfect confidence. As I said, really confident people use this.

Lastly, the opinionated opener.

This is done by asking a girl a neutral question that doesn't require the mind to think.
"Hi I'm doing a quick survey. Just answer as quick as you can. Orange juice or apple juice?"
"Hey, have I met you before? Sorry, you just seem really familiar. I think I've seen you at a party before."
"Hi. Do you know where the science non-fiction section is? Sorry, you just look like the type that reads that kinda thing"

As you can see, those are all very no brainer captain obvious questions, but they get the girl to let her guard down and they also open the door for a follow up.

I'll stop here for now and let u guys digest these a while.

Next time around, I'll talk about how to follow up to an approach.

Cheers =)